Whether you’ve been together three years or 30, there will come a time when you feel like your relationship has become stagnant. You may think that this spells the end of your time together, but this isn’t always the case. There are lots of ways you can breathe new life into an old pairing, and it just takes a bit of effort from both of you. However, you might actually be unsure why you feel like your relationship has stalled, so fixing it can seem out of the question. To help, we’ve collated the top 3 reasons why your relationship might need a shake-up. So, keep reading to find out more and hopefully save your relationship.
You’ve Fallen Into Routine
Once you move in together, it’s easy to fall into a routine. Getting up, going to work, coming home, having dinner, and sleeping. With this simple routine, you aren’t actually making time for each other and are only going about your daily lives, almost on autopilot. Even your sex life can become boring if you don’t work at keeping it alive. Try out new things like roleplaying, double penetration toys, or acting out each other’s fantasies.
These things can really boost your bedroom activities and help you regain your spark in and out of bed. Routines are important, especially if you have children. But that doesn’t mean you have to follow it exactly every single day of your life and forget about fitting each other into it. Spend some time looking at your daily routines and see where you could make more time for you both as a couple. Without spending time together just the two of you, you’ll quickly begin to lead separate lives and find that neither of you can move past it. Be sure to change things up in your routine and spice up your sex life, and you’ll soon start to feel the familiar flames of passion reignite.
You’ve Stopped Communicating
Communication is key when you’re in a couple, and you’ll soon start to see cracks appear when you stop doing it. No matter how long you’ve been together and might know each other as people, your partner isn’t a mind reader, so you still need to speak openly with them. If you’re not feeling satisfied in your relationship, you need to discuss this with your partner. How else will they be able to fix anything if they aren’t aware of the problem?
They might be having concerns of their own, and if you’re both struggling in silence rather than talking things through as a couple, then you’ll never be able to move forward. Make time for each other that allows you to communicate openly and discuss your feelings. You’ll soon be able to get on the same page and start working towards a better future together.
You Aren’t Prioritising Each Other
Life happens, and there will be times when you aren’t thinking about your partner as your first priority. However, if this becomes the norm, then there are going to be a lot of problems coming your way very soon. You need to make sure your partner knows that they’re appreciated and loved no matter what. Prioritizing each other goes both ways, meaning you both need to put each other’s needs first at times and understand where the other person is coming from.
Set aside some time each week where you have dinner just the two of you, or you spend an evening without the kids and enjoy each other’s company as a couple only. You don’t have to be spending every waking moment together or be putting their needs above your own, but you still need to be considerate and make them a priority in your life.
Being part of a couple takes work, and you actively have to make time for each other. There will be ups and downs in all relationships, but it’s how you deal with them that will determine whether or not you remain together. There are lots of reasons why your relationship may be under strain or start to feel slightly stale, but if you both work together to salvage it, it can be recovered. So, don’t feel like your relationship is dead and buried before you’ve even tried to work on it. You might find there’s life in yet!
By Amey MyersAmey, an intrepid traveler and avid blogger, roams the world, absorbing diverse cultures, flavors, and experiences. Her writing captures the essence of her adventures, inspiring others to explore. Amey's infectious passion for travel and storytelling epitomizes a life filled with exploration and adventure.
